Shared streets, unshared values

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They seem normal at first, don’t they?

Superficial conversations with leftists usually present no surprises. “Yes, that was a good movie,” and “Wow, the traffic was bad this morning.” But dig a little deeper — mention a breaking news story — and it hits the fan. That’s when we discover that this person has views on culture, the economy, religion, law enforcement and other fundamental public questions that diverge profoundly from our own. He lives in a different world.

Living and working alongside such people is a constant exercise in balancing civility against authenticity. Politeness may paper over, but cannot resolve, moral and political distance.

The problem stems in part from the nature of foundational beliefs. Positions on issues such as abortion, economic systems, religion, and law enforcement are rarely isolated opinions; they’re embedded in wider ethical frameworks and identities. Pro-lifers often ground their stance in a set of beliefs about biological realities and moral claims about duty and human rights, whereas pro-aborts may ground their views in claims about (their own) bodily autonomy. When neighbors and colleagues who hold those positions attempt to engage, they may find that disagreement is not just about policy details, but about competing narratives of basic biology, human rights, dignity, and responsibility. That makes compromise emotionally dangerous: Conceding on a policy may feel like betraying one’s moral self.

The asymmetry between public and private stakes may be another source of strain. Public policy debates carry downstream consequences — laws, taxation, policing practices — that shape daily life. Thus, political differences are not merely abstract; they affect schools, the workplace, and the distribution of burdens and benefits. Living or working near someone who supports policies that threaten the unborn, endanger the innocence of children, or threaten security can feel like a direct threat to one’s well-being or to the well-being of loved ones. This transforms conversational conflict into a lived tension: disagreement is no longer merely intellectual, but existential.

Social rituals and etiquette attempt to contain this friction. Our communities develop norms — avoidance of certain topics, or a shared commitment to civility — that enable diverse households to coexist. Yet such arrangements are fragile, and we see them breaking down all around us — teenagers taking over public areas and events, migrants attacking citizens, a loss of civility and a seemingly endless stream of complaints, and baseless accusations. When the “elephant” is acknowledged, the cracks appear: people may retreat into echo chambers within their social networks, deepen mutual suspicion, or perform a polite but hollow coexistence. Superficial harmony can become unsatisfying precisely because it requires self-censorship and the suspension of honest engagement with a neighbor whose choices shape the public sphere.

In some cases, the breakdown mirrors intimate relationships that have lost their shared foundations. Like parents who discover irreconcilable differences and separate “for the sake of the children,” neighbors or fellow citizens may conclude that meaningful association is impossible without shared commitments. Sometimes this results in political sorting — choosing different organizations, schools, or neighborhoods — or in alliances that minimize cross-cutting ties. The cost of such sorting is significant: It can erode pluralism, reduce opportunities for mutual understanding, and harden social fragmentation. But what choice do we have when the disagreements are so basic and so severe? The political left and right no longer seem to share any common beliefs or goals whatsoever.

For decades, most conservatives have tried to “take the high road” in the face of unending and escalating instances of fraud, corruption, hypocrisy, calumny, physical attacks and even attempted and actual assassinations. What has it gotten us? How many times have we seen Democrats openly calling for violence?

Recent election results in California and Maine do not bode well for the country. At least one third to one half of Americans are enthusiastically supporting candidates and policies that are antithetical to Americanism. Any reconciliation with such people requires deliberate practices: robust but respectful argumentation and institutional arrangements that protect our human rights and the rule of law. It also requires non-partisan judges and attorneys general, vigorous and impartial law enforcement, and most of all safe and secure elections.

These seem unlikely in the current socio-political climate, as the left has evidenced no inclination to participate. Quite the opposite. Leftists seem poised to burn the place down so they can rule over the ashes.

What’s left? A national divorce due to irreconcilable differences?

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