People magazine reported that five 5th-grade girls in Arizona, aged 10 and 11, schemed to stab a boyfriend who allegedly “cheated” on one of them. They chimed, “Just end him.” The girls plotted to stage the murder as a suicide. In Australia, a 50-year-old mother of two murdered three relatives and attempted to kill a fourth by feeding them deadly mushrooms.

The Centers for Disease Control found that male victims of domestic violence outnumber female victims, at 6.5 million to 5.6 million. In South Korea, the United States, Germany, and the United Kingdom, Gen Z women have shifted left, while men the same age have held steady or moved to the right.

Although more men than women suffer domestic violence, men remain silent to avoid ridicule. SAVE (Stop Abusive and Violent Environments) reported 18 female-perpetrated domestic homicides during the first four months of 2025. Marissa Harrison’s book, Just as Deadly, tracks how female serial killers are motivated by financial gain to target their spouses.

One such target was Johnny Depp, falsely accused of “verbal and physical abuse” by ex-wife Amber Heard, who attempted to kill his career. Unlike most men, Depp refused to don a sullied character either from his ex or from the UK newspaper, The Sun, which called him a “wife beater.” Depp sued the newspaper for libel but lost. Then he sued Heard for libel over her accusatory column in The Washington Post. The televised case attracted 3.5 million viewers, with three of his A-list exes testifying on his behalf. He defended his lawsuit, saying, “If I don’t try to represent the truth, it will be like I’ve actually committed the acts I am accused of.”

Johnny Depp is listed as one of the “Real Men Who Stand Up” in Dr. Gilda Carle’s book, Real Men Don’t Go Woke. The actor won the case and thanked “the jury [that] gave me my life back.”
Most men lack Depp’s resources, so they silently simmer in anger. But when Dr. Gilda Carle explained men’s silence in a video short on TikTok, men with disguised identities were anything but silent: “Nothing hurts more than the person you thought had your back and uses your weakness and fears against you.” “We’ve spoken by our actions. Most men are avoiding relationships.” “I’m dangerously close to the end because it’s only safe to suffer in silence.” Frayed feelings were being exposed, perhaps for the first time. Yet, vulnerable men still can’t reveal their identities without retaliation.

Men who don’t defend their dignity are termed “weak,” “spineless,” or “woke.” Meanwhile, women of all ages bemoan the shortage of strong partners. A New York Times “Modern Love” essay was titled, “Men Where Have You Gone? Please Come Back.” The writer lamented, “So many men have retreated from intimacy… We miss you.” When they do speak out, albeit in camo, men reveal they now choose to stay away from women.

At first, silence and social isolation may feel like safe options for men. But during Men’s Health Week, President Donald Trump underscored, “This war on manhood has left many American men in a state of loneliness, confusion, and emptiness, with devastating consequences: Men in the United States are four times more likely to commit suicide and more than twice as likely to overdose than women.”

Despite the president’s dire proclamation, when a woman on Instagram mentioned the male suicide rate, another commented, “[Male suicide] rates [are] not high enough.” Almost 7,000 mean girls liked her comment! Misandry is not only rampant; it is celebrated!

Radical feminists want men to die. Grounded women plead, “Please come back.” Neither group is getting what it wants. Even worse, increasing numbers of men choose suicide to punctuate their isolation and silence. Sun Tzu’s “The Art of War” instructs communication over combat.

If men are silent, how do they communicate their needs? If women turn a deaf ear, how do they have the relationships they want?

Women must make it safe for men to be heard. Men with sturdy backbones must recognize that violators only attack the weak. Isolating from women for a while may allow men to find their power. Powerful men are real men. Real men are aphrodisiacs. Real men don’t go woke.

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DR. GILDA CARLE (Ph.D.) is spokesperson for the International Council for Men and Boys. Her latest book is “Real Men Don’t Go Woke.” She has appeared on most TV talk and news shows and hosted Fox’s “Dr. Gilda” TV show pilot, MTV’s “Love Doc,” and TV shows on Trinity Broadcasting Network. She is a product spokesperson, keynote speaker, professor emerita of business, and author of 19 books.